Relationships

Relationships are such complicated things...

Expecially when expectations and frustrations get in the way...

It's funny how at the beginning when one is thrilled to have met someone,

everything is so beautiful...

We are so thrilled at the thought that someone would find little plain me interesting

that we think they are perfect...

They smell good, are just so sensitive.... are so good looking....

Know the perfect things to say... at the right times...

I can depend on them... i have someone to share by life with...

Maybe all my troubles will go away... etc etc..

And everything about this person seems to be a beautifully sung song...

And you make plans and plans and plans....

But what happens next?

Expectations get in the way...

Expectations on how we think that person should be, should think, should act...

You see.... everyone is in their best behaviors in the beginning,

Hence the saying of the 3, 7, 9 year challenge...

The period of time when commitments to each other increases as life progresses and people take steps to build something together or when challenges pop in.

Be it a loss of a job, a new child getting born or going to school or even getting a promotion.

Suddenly the same song becomes irritating...

Like a thumping beat in the background calling

when there are a million things that needs to be done...

And everything comes in a swarm... and things get hard to handle.

Now of course there will be some that think.. " No..... I never lash out or get grumpy, trust me... you do "

Now the big question is.....

What has happened to the relationship?

Did expectations get in the way?

Were we hoping to be swept off our feet and all the stress will ease?

Was the other a jerk?

Were we being selfish, thinking that our issues were more important?

Did one of us not hear what the other was saying?

Or was one of us being judgmental or un-supporting?

There is only so much that one can handle and thats true....

But as understanding as one tries to be...

it does not mean we don't get frustrated...

Question is.... are we willing to work things out?

Are our commitments to the other strong enough to pull things through?

Emotions fluctuate in intensity, both love and hate alike...

So what was really real?

You? Me? The problem? The frustration?

Or just... nothing.....

It was all in our minds...?