Relationships

It has definitely been a very contemplative day today......
And the main question I had in mind was why do relationships end?
Do couples drift apart because they loose sight of what is important?
or do couples get tired of each other when things get a little too hard?
Or perhaps there is an imbalance in the giving and taking in the relationship.
Surely there is a void that is not filled that causes two people that were So very much in love in the beginning to decide.... " This is not working"
Without denial, some relationships can be destructive, where verbal or physical abuse occurs with differing levels...
But why.... why does this all happen?

Due to our own insecurities ? An attempt to control another and have them act how we want them to?
For most, I do think it unrealistic to expect people not to change...
If you have ever dated... the honeymoon period is always the sweetest. There is lots of flirting, everybody is extra attentive, there is a fear that this new found love will walk away.
Everything is intense....
As time goes on... reality catches up... ( wish it wouldn't ). Work needs to be done, chores get in the way, things break down... then there are bills to pay.. etc
The real test begins...
Couples get a little tired of each other, and they forget to look for the positive side in each other.. and focus on the negatives.

Suddenly words are less sweet and and more hurtful...
Actions become more individualistic... perhaps because people need space?
And when insecure... we start wondering.... why is our partner acting that way?
And for some... they pry and pry, and put each other into a corner and eventually, it all falls apart.
Someone recently told me, "for a relationship to really work one should practice selective hearing, take the good stuff and ignore all the criticisms even if they can be condescending "

I don't believe that love ever dies... it transforms...
Into a deep caring and concern... a different type of love...
I do not believe that you could ever erase a person out of your life after they have touched your heart.
How could one delete another after all that was shared?
Breaking up should never mean, get out of my life...
Unfortunately for some it may turn to hate... It should never be that way.
For others it turns awkward... But why would it be so?
If we are able to show our vulnerabilities and spill our guts to a partner... are we not able to do so with  a friend? One that knows so much about ourselves, even after the physical intimacy ends?

If we only focus and the anger, hurt, frustration or the feelings of betrayal in a relationship,
then we are bound to miss the potential of a great friendship after...