Voices

Hormones raging..
Emotions blaring....
A heart enraged...
wounded ........
Drips.....
sometimes i wonder if there are demons inside me...

The chatter of mind..
Voices ....
Hearts and minds clashing...
Voices....
When will it all end?

Soul mates meet....
the fights horrendous......
An unavoidable circumstance ...
Essential to growth..

Overbearing- aloofness
Resilient - indecisive
blunt - tactful
calm - chaotic
When will it all stop?

When waters run still and merge to flow...
When Yin meets Yang and the energies grow..
When individuals work and speak as a pair..
When soul mates realize that the issues are really not there...

Then it is silent..........

Relationships

It has definitely been a very contemplative day today......
And the main question I had in mind was why do relationships end?
Do couples drift apart because they loose sight of what is important?
or do couples get tired of each other when things get a little too hard?
Or perhaps there is an imbalance in the giving and taking in the relationship.
Surely there is a void that is not filled that causes two people that were So very much in love in the beginning to decide.... " This is not working"
Without denial, some relationships can be destructive, where verbal or physical abuse occurs with differing levels...
But why.... why does this all happen?

Due to our own insecurities ? An attempt to control another and have them act how we want them to?
For most, I do think it unrealistic to expect people not to change...
If you have ever dated... the honeymoon period is always the sweetest. There is lots of flirting, everybody is extra attentive, there is a fear that this new found love will walk away.
Everything is intense....
As time goes on... reality catches up... ( wish it wouldn't ). Work needs to be done, chores get in the way, things break down... then there are bills to pay.. etc
The real test begins...
Couples get a little tired of each other, and they forget to look for the positive side in each other.. and focus on the negatives.

Suddenly words are less sweet and and more hurtful...
Actions become more individualistic... perhaps because people need space?
And when insecure... we start wondering.... why is our partner acting that way?
And for some... they pry and pry, and put each other into a corner and eventually, it all falls apart.
Someone recently told me, "for a relationship to really work one should practice selective hearing, take the good stuff and ignore all the criticisms even if they can be condescending "

I don't believe that love ever dies... it transforms...
Into a deep caring and concern... a different type of love...
I do not believe that you could ever erase a person out of your life after they have touched your heart.
How could one delete another after all that was shared?
Breaking up should never mean, get out of my life...
Unfortunately for some it may turn to hate... It should never be that way.
For others it turns awkward... But why would it be so?
If we are able to show our vulnerabilities and spill our guts to a partner... are we not able to do so with  a friend? One that knows so much about ourselves, even after the physical intimacy ends?

If we only focus and the anger, hurt, frustration or the feelings of betrayal in a relationship,
then we are bound to miss the potential of a great friendship after...

Just thoughts... edited and reposted

Celebraties parting...
A Wife cooking and cleaning...
A little girl crying...
A man having an affair...
An angry husband punching...
Gay people kissing,
Thin women winning...
Fat people Losing...
War.
Disharmony...
Peace.
Love...

White collars working,
blue collars striving,
Mean bosses Raving..
Endless lists piling...
Lottery winner celebrating...
Homeless man begging...
Protests raving..
Governments ignoring..
Corruption building...
Some parties denying..

Tossed and turned we are manipulated by airways that enter our homes..
From the BBC,  the ABC, TV1 to TV3...
Painting the world with a false sense of democracy..
Sensor ship boards showing us what they want us to see..

When does that all stop?
When the people have the freedom to vote freely?
or when politicians work to the true meaning of liberty?
When the power lies with the people, and the people decide who's in power?
Can there really be a true democracy or are we just finding an alternative to our reality...

There are moments in time where we wake up and drag ourselves out of bed, to work, to places... due to exhaustion, trauma, major changes in life, not wanting to face certain things...

I'm sure we all have had instances where people have beaten us down, and we find it hard to pick ourselves up again. Life never goes as planned..... there will be moments like stress, things not working out at work,  someone you respect and care for saying negative things at you.

I remember when i was young i always never felt i was good enough for my father. He always had a way of pushing us, in the most demeaning way. " well maybe not to that extreme" but at a young tender age, it certainly did bite, when we did something wrong and he'd tap our heads and call us stupid. Or when he'd imply we were useless for not helping with chores or was too slow to react.

When i was in my teens i learned the art of avoiding him, of course I knew he meant well, but still... just because i understood, it doesn't mean it didn't hurt, and his words tho spoken with good intention, was also spoken with judgement.  I recall, the many times my mother would get agitated  to the brink of tears by his battering on her so called imperfections.

I use to seriously ponder.... is that all necessary? To comment or make remarks, just because people may not be acting or reacting the way we want them to... Do we all not have the right to just be in our own space and yet still fit in with the crowd? Can't people share moments together and enjoy

I do know that sometimes we make comments with good intentions, like my dad does ( he has a big heart ) but he also fails to realize that as great an intention he may have... people may have differing opinions...
"It's never fully white or black... Most things are grey" and his remarks are rather hurtful... as honest and truthful as he thinks he is.....

So question is.....  who's at fault?

The listener or the sayer? Truth is... i think no one is.....  its just a matter of how much one can swallow... and how pure the intention of the comments....
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Reality

What is real? I have asked myself a many times....
We all look at the world differently, though I do believe our realities coincide..
Everything rises and falls...
Our emotions, our thoughts... our passions... All things are subject to change,

The most difficult thing in the world is to know how to do a thing and silently watch someone else do it wrong.


I stumbled upon this.... how true I found it... 
If reality is our reality, and not necessary somebody else's....
Who am I to take it upon myself to judge and feel a need to correct them..?
I have not been empowered to break someone down and build them up again... especially if they have not given me permission to do so...
It is not my right to stop someone from learning their lives lesson, for if I had them do things the way i think best... they would be learning mine...


There is a big difference with giving feedback and being tactless and hurtful.... or pushy and domineering.


Sometimes, Silence is the way to go...